If your relationship is in crisis, choosing the right therapist is one of the most
important decisions you can make. Many therapists offer couples counseling as a part
of their practice. However, few have the specialized training that is needed to
help couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationship.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress
and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital
distress and adult attachment. The model explores how couples construct their emotional experience
of connection and how they engage with each other. Through the process couples learn how to
expand their emotional responses, create new kinds of interactions and foster secure bonding.
Discernment counseling is a short term process (maximum of 5 sessions) for couples who are considering separation but are not completely sure if it's the right path for them. This process lets the
couple take one more look before making a permanent decision with long term consequences. The sessions
are structured in a particular way so the therapist has the ability to work with the couple together and
individually. Working with this structure emphasizes the importance of each person identifying
his or her own contributions to the problems and possible solutions.
Unlike other models the central principle of the developmental model is to initially focus on
individual growth and "differentiation" of each partner as well as on strengthening your capacity
to accept your differences. This is different from other models who tend to initially focus on increasing
empathy and understanding of each other. Empathy and understanding are certainly a part of
the developmental process. However, it comes with time. Before we can empathize and
understand we need to learn howto accept our differences and not move away from them.